""In hell, for perfectionists, there is no sulfur, no fire, and only slightly asymmetric are slightly chipped cauldrons»
Perfectionism is a buzzword.
I often hear, my friend, how young people with black circles under their eyes from fatigue speak with pride about themselves: ""I'm a perfectionist."
They say, like, with pride, but I don't hear enthusiasm.
I propose to think about the thesis that perfectionism is more evil than good. Specifically, a nervous breakdown.
And second , what can be an alternative to perfectionism?
Wikipedia: Perfectionism - in psychology, the belief that an ideal can and should be achieved. In the pathological form-the belief that an imperfect result of work has no right to exist. Also, perfectionism is the desire to remove all "" superfluous ""or make"" uneven ""object "" even"".
The pursuit of success is in human nature.
In this sense, perfectionism encourages hard work to achieve results.
As a driving force-quite a useful quality, the fictional positive perfectionist psychologist in my head tells me.
Agree. Now, my friend, the dark side of the moon:
- Perfectionism is characterized by large time expenditures (not so much on developing a solution, but on putting a gloss on it).
- As well as energy consumption (doubts, doubts, doubts).
- Denial of reality (rejection of the idea that the ideal result may not be achieved).
- The closeness of the feedback.
- Fear of failure = anxiety and high level of anxiety.
I understand perfectionists well, because for many years I have proudly positioned myself as a workaholic perfectionist.
I started my career in marketing, and this is just a source of a pandemic of perfectionism (especially the part related to visual communications - who knows, will understand).
Benefits: high-quality products (website, articles, design solutions).
Anti-benefits: work 15 hours a day, lack of privacy, constant feeling of anxiety, lack of opportunities to develop through feedback.
And then I discovered the concept of optimalism (by Ben-Shahar), accepted it, and offer it to you for reflection.
The optimist also works hard as a perfectionist. The key difference is that the optimist knows how to stop in time.
The Optimalist chooses and implements not the ideal, but the optimal - the best, most favorable under the current set of conditions.
Not perfect, but a sufficient level of quality.
Sufficient doesn't mean low. Sufficient - so, within the current task - for the top five without striving for the top five with a plus.
The same Ben-Shahar offers comparative characteristics of two types:
- Perfectionist-the path as a straight line, fear of failure, focus on the goal, ""all or nothing"", defensive position, error seeker, strict, conservative.
- Optimist-the path as a spiral, failure as feedback, focus including on the path to the goal, open to advice, seeker of advantages, easy to adapt.